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Arizona

As the title of this blog and the content of my posts reflect, I’ve been around quite a few blocks — above and below water. When I get homesick, it’s for more than one X on the globe, and I’m more wealthier (soulwise — financially not so much) for it.
Arizona, however, is where I go back to every summer (Good God Phoenix and, now, Yuma you kill me with that heat) and sometimes Christmas. It is where my children and grandchildren live. It is most probably where I will live my final years (helloooo retirement).
Around this time 24 years ago, I packed up my kids, our cat Bunny, and our belongings into a 24-foot Ryder truck with an old BMW attached. It took us five days to drive cross country, making it to our never-seen-in-person Phoenix condo in the middle of the night. The trip was stressful and magical at the same time. Our first glimpse of Arizona was the San Francisco peaks way, way, way ahead of us on a long, flat highway. It was early evening during monsoon season, so what we saw was jagged triangles of purple haloed by horizontal lighting.
Quite a few hours later, the kids and I slept on our new living room floor with all of the windows open. The main breaker for the apartment was, for whatever reason, downstairs in the back of someone else’s condo, so we couldn’t turn on our power. Instead, we snuggled and listened to the thunder and rain brought down from that same storm that graced Flagstaff’s mountains. We didn’t know it at the time, but we were so lucky that Arizona decided to welcome us with her rain and wind, tucking us in with her scent of wet sage and blissfully cool air, so that we could face the morning’s heat well rested. And, believe you me, the day’s heat was definitely a rude awakening.
That night was the first night my children or I had been through any of these parts of Arizona. Prior to that, many years before, I spent a night in Tucson while 5 months pregnant with my daughter. Long story short, I was with my mother and brother on our way to visit my sister in California. We took a side trip to the Desert Museum (a park with lots of saguaro and animals). It was hot, so my brother and mother hid inside a cafe while I walked around. I kid you not (I swear I’m not making this up), I got to a deer area where I watched a mother give birth to her fawn. The whole time she looked at me while I looked at her. The birth didn’t take long at all, and I didn’t notice the heat or whether anyone else was around. I was just so taken aback that I got to witness this most amazing thing, and I thought to myself “I’m going to live in Arizona.” I wished the new mom and her baby well, joined my family, and then got on with my life completely forgetting about this vow to live so far away from my-then life on the east coast.

It took about 13 years for me to remember that day and get serious about my inner promise. The story that led us to the big move, or the story of our living there, isn’t important to this post. What is important is the magic of Arizona’s deserts (and desserts), mountains, vortexes, canyons and all that goes with it.
The state is one irony or juxtaposition after another, and yet it all manages to blend (I wouldn’t say it always works) together. For those of you wanting to visit, please do fit in time to hike our low desert trails (in winter — avoid at all cost in summer; being athletic means nothing to that heat) and our high desert forests (winter might be too cold for some). Up north, in the woods, just stop and listen to the pine. They are always singing you their song. Down in the valley, watch the cracked earth. It’s busy with life.
It saddens me that so much of it is on fire right now. I believe there are currently 26 wildfires tearing through the state. The Dragon Bravo megafire, which began early July, in the Grand Canyon has made international headlines — mainly because tourists from around the world come here to take in its grandeur (kudos to them because photos or video will never do it justice). It is still devouring acres upon acres. The damaging impact of this fire will live on longer than we like.
Near Sedona, where my son Kyle lives, there is another fire. It looks like recent rains might stop this beast from growing. I cannot even describe what a loss it would be if fire tore through Oak Creek Canyon and destroyed all in its wake. There are a lot of woo-woo spiritual places in Sedona — in part, probably, because of marketing, but mostly because its beauty really is that moving. The echos of ancestors are embedded in its cliffs.
When we first moved to Arizona, Sedona tourism wasn’t as crazy there as it is now. It was always a place to see and inhale, but we’ve instagramed the hell out of it, so now there are also just about as many cars as red rocks. I gripe about this, but I also get it. Northern Arizona, as a whole, is ahhhhmazing. Sedona adds more color and flair to it.
Fire is and always has been part of Arizona’s story. Phoenix, its capital, is named after a creature that is reborn from the ashes. I don’t doubt that Arizona will survive and regrow whatever man or Mother Nature throws its way. BUT, I do hope we find a way to cut down on any of the man-made harm, while at the same time telling you that Arizona is special and definitely worth the visit (Arizona isn’t the only one with its juxtapositions).
Mostly, though, I want its beauty protected so that my grandchildren can have more than the family snapshots we share. The best magic the state holds for me are these amazing folk who I’d travel for days to see.
Today, while in my other lovely corner of the world, my heart is full of love and gratitude for my home in Arizona. Hugs and margarita cheers to all!
In between the waves

I’m currently sipping a cranberry mimosa at my first lounge of a three-flight trip home to see the family. I know it’s been a long while since I’ve last posted. My excuse is a combination of being busy with friends and birthdays and digesting the WTF events of our world. It’s hard to post how great my life is when, well, it feels like we’re always on the cusp of armageddon.
If I keep waiting for the waves of bad news to stop, I’ll never post again. Soooo, here we go for the quick rundown of some of what I got to see and do in May and June.
Ignoring what I can’t control, I’ve hit a few milestones while I wasn’t posting in here.
May was an amazing month. Michelle came to visit, Susan came to visit, Mini came to visit — lol on the day I hugged Michelle goodbye, less than two minutes later I was hugging Mini hello. Michelle not only learned to dive, but she also earned four certifications and completed 20 dives before flying back to Virginia (most impressive!). It was soooooooo good to share my love of the island and my love of diving with her — we even got to fit in a trip to Cebu. It’s always good when we get time to sip and inhale all that life sends our way. Miche also turned 50; I turned 60.

LOL. Instead of pulling a rabbit out of a hat, these magicians pulled me into another decade. While I missed another big birthday with my family, I certainly didn’t miss out on any love and laughs. I have the most Guamazing friends — on top of the ones from afar. There were many celebrations, including the one on my actual birthday, which was a picnic at Gab Gab beach, after a bring-in-the-next-year dive. It was perfect since this is also where I learned to dive.
For Michelle’s 50th we did a week in Cebu. On her actual birthday we had the most amazing meal at a resort; two days later an amazing spa day that had us looking 10 years younger. Of course we also did all sorts of sipping and sightseeing.
But, the diving was our true gift. We got to swim with whale sharks and dart in and out of a sardine run. It was pure magic.
The whale sharks are fed and thousands of people come to this tiny village to watch them. Most snorkel, but we got up at 3 a.m. to get there by 6 for the first dive of the day. It’s cheating, and I’d much rather see these beauties in the wild, but I’m so grateful we got to do this. Several times we’d turn around to have one right next to us. It’s my hope that one day I’ll get to see them without the help of locals throwing plankton their way.
There’s also the fun of showing off Guam. When Ericka visited in January I took her to Talafofo Falls, which is an experience all unto itself. I don’t want to spoil the fun for anyone reading this who might get to see this local experience, BUT I will say no one should ever go expecting it to be any normal OSHA-approved venture. If you’re willing to ride a rickety gondola OR, when it’s broken, ride in the back of a sawed-off pickup truck, it’s well worth the $12. Don’t bring the kids.
May also included visits from Mini and Susan, which also included more diving fun. The antics above water are just as fun as the world we get to witness underneath.
May quickly transitioned to June, which meant time to celebrate Susan’s, ahem 29th, birthday. That too included more fun, including the dinner show at Fisheye — totally worth every penny.
End of June, Susan and I got to spend a week on a boat in Palau, which will be its own blog entry (I began writing it during down time on the boat).
And, as you can probably tell by my writing, I’m rushing through things because I’ve run out of time. I’m actually finishing this post off on July 5 — after completing the grueling trip home, BUT getting to spend the 4th with the grandbabies (worth every second of lost sleep getting here).
I’m so grateful for all the love and joy the planet and my favorite people on it bring me. I hope all of you are having a wonderful holiday weekend with your people.
The in between…
I know shame on me for not posting in quite awhile. I had several good ones to post too — like arriving in Tokyo during a rare snow storm (I now know what it’s like to experience train travel with suitcases during Tokyo rush hour when the roads are closed; intimate is an understatement). But, I just never got around to keying it all in.

Before that I got to experience first-class fun on a Korean train to Daegu — FYI In Japan and Korea train passengers are expected to be quiet (as in you leave the car, and hover by the bathroom or door, if you need to speak). If you’ve ever met me you know that is quite the challenge, which, um, I might have had endured some productive struggle (but I really, really tried).
In between those two trips was the best bit of all — a visit from my daughter and her family. Oh my goodness, I love my kids and all, but holy hell do I love my grand babies. I treasure the little adventures I get to have with Torin. Isla is too young to be trusted alone with me; she’s an expert mimicker and doesn’t need to learn my hand gestures and vocabulary.
It’s been two months since their visit, and I sooooo miss them, but we’ll be vacationing together again before we know it. The in-between time keeps me busy too. My work, friend, dive and regular life is full of love and laughter too. Plus, I get to see a lot of this…
I’m also just a few days away from my next trip: a vacation in the Philippines! I’m so excited. It’s my first non-family oriented (although I love those) or work trip since we’ve moved to Guam. And, yes, I’m diving — cannot wait to see what I see!
When we return, a friend will be waiting for us — lol he lands two nights before we do, so keep the beers chilled, Derek!
Merry Christmas!

It’s been a busy month getting festive with friends and Christmas markets. I’ve not had time to pop in and show you the Christmas markets in Brussels, Mons, Aachen, Durbuy and Brugge. So here’s a quick blast of some of it.












Aaron got here on the 16th, and Kaylene and her family arrived a week later, so we’re inhaling time with two of the kids — and the grandbaby!
Mama bear and two of her cubs
lol the child is an artist with his food
my baby working her artIt’s Christmas morning and everyone is still all snuggled up in their beds, while I slowly wake in my big yellow chair. It’s good to have my children here. I wish Kyle and Kendra were here as well, but we’ll all do Christmas together in Arizona next year.
Tomorrow we do a family road trip to Normandy where we’ve rented a lovely farmhouse. I can’t wait to sip wine in front of its fireplace. So, all is well with my world. The next time I post it will be 2020 (unless I manage to fit in some time to write before then), so here’s a very Merry Christmas to all of you and a Happy New Year! May you all have some blessed quiet time and a little bit of chaos with your loved ones.
Happy New Year!
New Year’s Eve bubbly on Brussel’s Grand Place
This time next week Kyle and Kendra will be back in Arizona, Joe will be on a plane headed to Arizona (for a two month visit), and I will be busy at work. BUT, that’s next week. This week I’m still on holiday getting all snuggly with part of my family.
We’ve been busy living it up. We’ve done weekends in Amsterdam, Paris, Cologne and Brussels, along with showing off Mons and Brugge — including lots of good cheer with friends.
We’ve imbibed in a lot of goodness! And, the obligatory tourist shots!
We also got to witness a little bit of the Yellow Jacket ruckus in Paris. Our tour guide was more a fan of the protests than telling us interesting bits about the city, but it’s all good since it’s now part of our story.
The city was way less crowded than normal, and we saw the remnants of the violence that erupted prior to our visit, but we were lucky that no projectiles or fires took off where we were — just people chanting and parading for their something better.

We also got to celebrate Lorayne’s birthday sipping champagne at the top of the Eiffel tower, so our story is always more full of happiness than its antonym.
On New Year’s Eve we joined the party at the Atomium, which was fun until, well, it wasn’t, but that too turned out okay.
The aerial dancers, music and fireworks show was amazing — and free to enter! But, the trip home was insane. I love Belgium, and I get it has its kinks, but promising free public transportation after midnight (in Brussels) and then not planning on crowd control eeze a problame!
We got to the Tram station only to find a swarm of people like us trying to figure out where the damn line to get into the station was — instead it was just a mosh pit of hats and scarves pushing our way forward only to learn that the corner of the crowd we were in was ‘closed.’ Wtf did that even mean? Long story short we have no idea what was going on inside the tram station, only that our asses weren’t getting in. So, Kyle took over the GPS and we began the alleged 1.5 hour walk to our hotel. The goal was to hail a cab or jump on a bus or try out another metro station along the way. LOL, but every bus that passed us was so packed with people their faces were literally squished against the windows. They would have flipped us the bird — since we laughed at the insanity of it — but they were too packed in to be able to lift their hands. I wasn’t handling the whole thing very well and was really pissed, but then it started raining, and I just gave in to it because what can you do? Walk in, hopefully, the right direction, while packed taxis and busses pass you by — until Kyle managed to hail us our miracle cab.
So, we brought in 2019 with amazing fireworks, a bit of a “wtf do we do now” panic, then relief thanks to a stranger, and then, finally, oh thank God we’re home. That pretty much sums up our years, doesn’t it?
It’s all good because our story will always move forward, and that’s a great thing. Cheers to all of you and all that the new year will bring us!

And Auf Wiedersehen to the holiday season — we’ll catch you again in 11 months!
Post bridezilla post

My favorite one of Joe and me, which is a hard pick because there are some great ones.
Four months later, and I’m finally able to take a look through all of the wedding pics Anna took for us. It’s gonna take me a bit to put it all together in a photo album, and I’m trying to send everyone my fave of their pics, but it’s easier if I blast a bunch in here and if any of my friends/family would like one on the blog, just let me know and I’ll get it to you. There are also many great ones not posted here because, well, I just can’t upload them all.
First off credit for all of these photos goes to Anna Purdy, who is based in Virginia. If you’re interested in her work, check out her website here.
Secondly, if you’re looking to read a post about one of my great adventures, this one’s a big one for me and my family, but will probably bore those of you who don’t know us. Hopefully, my next post will be of more interest to you.
Thirdly, I totally suck at posing for pics. I am not a model wanna be in any way, shape or form. Sooo kudos to Anna for getting so many lovely shots because I’m a hard one to photograph well.
Take for example this lovely pic, which through no fault of the photographer looks like I’m in phase one of zombie transformation. How in the hell do you even get your eye to do that?

BUT, despite my whackadoodle facial expressions I got a nice assortment of 50+ year old glamour shots — ewww even have some cleavage/thigh shots (but those are Joe’s pics to keep).
See not too shabby. Thanks to Shannan for doing my hair (not finished yet in this pic) and Michelle for doing my makeup.
My absolute favourites, though, are not of me in my shiny white robe. They are the family and friend shots, and the ones of Joe and me. I love all of us and what we have together, so I will never get tired of looking at our group shots!
Oh how I love my zany friends
And the women in my family/wedding party
And the men…
Sadly, Brian, Joe’s friend since grade school, isn’t in any of these photos, but we’ll have shots of him in the wedding album!

aw the kids and us. I’m so thankful for all the fun and love we have together!
And, of course, some of Joe and me
And the wedding party, which doesn’t include everyone who played a role in making our wedding weekend so fabulous…

Now all I have to do is wait two and a half months before I see my man again, and way too many months before I see the kids, but we’re always connected, and we’ll make the best of our time when we’re together.

Bonding in Sedona…
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Forgive my focus on all that green, but you see I see so little of it so it gives me joy.
It’s raining real rain — not the normal two-second tease — in Phoenix. It’s dark outside, the dogs are huddled by my feet (as if I could protect them), and my youngest is snuggled up in his bed sleeping his way through the storm. It’s an awesome morning to sip my coffee and share some more photos.
A few weeks ago Kyle moved from Colorado to Sedona, so on Wednesday Kaylene and I took a mother-daughter day to enjoy one of our favourite places on earth while getting the chance to visit our boy. We treated ourselves to a ‘room,’ which turned out to be a mini cabin. We loved it so much I’m thinking of booking a night there with Joe (because I now have a really good excuse to drive up to Sedona again, although does one ever need an excuse to visit living art?). I won’t waste your time bragging about how wonderfully awesome my kids are (hehehe guess I just did), but I will tell you how proud I am of my babies. Man oh man I have spent countless hours worrying about each of them and some of their choices, but this time I have with them now is proof that I need to just let them be and continue doing their adult thing their way. They’ve totally got this.
Kyle has learned that he is most grounded and most at peace surrounded by nature. He is finding his way, and I’m so glad Kaylene and I got to enjoy a bit of his happiness with him. Sedona is already proving to be a good move for him and his pooch Piper (if his dog nurturing skills are any indication of the kind of father he will one day be, I envy my future grand children). I also envy Kaylene and Aaron’s future babies. Ohhhh and I so want to write about them now too, but I’ll do that privately so you can get your chance to enjoy some pics of Sedona (and two of my amazing offspring). Long story short the three of us had a fantastic time together.
For those of you who’ve never been to Sedona it’s a must-see if you ever go to Arizona. It’s kind of the reverse of the Grand Canyon. When you see the Grand Canyon you look down (unless you’re one of the lucky ones who also get to hike to its bottom), when you go to Sedona you look up. Artists, psychics, naturalists thrive there. It’s a spiritual place thanks to its beauty, its connection to ancient times (use your imagination and you’ll see faces embedded in its walls), and its vortexes — although I honestly don’t know much about the vortexes. For me hiking through its woods and trails is magic enough; maybe its the vortex energy, maybe it’s not — who cares because it’s all good. So, please do make sure you hike as much as shop if you ever get a chance to visit. And hey if you’re into the psychic thing get a reading or buy a crystal while you’re at it.
Fun times with two of my kiddos
A boy and his dog…
So, this creek is right near where Kyle lives. THIS is where his dog gets to play every day while Kyle sometimes strums his guitar (sorry no guitar pics this time around). Lucky dog!
Aaron, my youngest, had to work so he couldn’t make this trip with us, but we’ve had plenty of mother/son lunches. Sadly since he still lives at the house we don’t think to take pics doing our thing together, but he’s as awesome to spend time with as his brother — and I’m gonna sneak some shots of him and post before I leave!
Next up? A weekend in Yuma visiting friends, and then Joe and I will have a few days up north by ourselves, and then I’ll cry my eyes out leaving the fam until we gather together again.
Packing up…
Pool Time Memories…too many to post
Fifteen years ago I packed up my kids, my cat (who passed at the age of 20 last year), my belongings (most of which have been replaced over the years — oh those kids!), rented a Ryder truck, attached my car and drove 2,300 miles to move to the Arizona desert. The first time I set foot in Phoenix was the night we pulled up during our first monsoon storm.
While the heat about killed us, we immediately fell in love with our new state. Within our first year I bought the house my kids did most of their growing up in. It’s a colourful, kid-pet-party scarred home full of love, laughter and tears. As beat up as it is right now — needing new windows, new floors, new paint — I love this house, but it’s time to spruce her up for another family.
I’m sweaty, dusty, and a bit too furry (thanks to my shedding dogs) because I’ve been packing up the stuff that needs to be stored until Joe and I are ready for our next American home. It might be awhile since I’m not yet finished with my overseas adventure (Joe has yet to begin his), but the things that matter to us will be waiting for when we’re ready to replant our roots.
It’s hard packing up now because the house won’t even go onto the market until the Fall, after Joe and the kids have gotten some of the cosmetic fixes taken care of. I’m sad that I won’t be here the last day I own it, but I’m totally cool with missing out on all the moving hell that comes with it. I’m also looking forward to using some of its sale money for our family, summer Europe trip next year (now that’s fun packing!). I’ve been wanting to take my kids on a trip like this for forever, so yay we can finally do it — in about a year.
In three weeks I fly back to the second desert I moved to, and I’ll finish off my probable last year in the UAE (who knows what the future holds?!). Until then I’ll continue enjoying my time here. It’s not all melancholic packing. There are more pool parties, happy hours, family trips and gatherings planned before I leave, so it’s all good — just a little nostalgic.
Just some random (stuff posted on Facebook throughout the years) home memories.













































































































